These days the form of family have a lot of
variation; conjugal families, extend families, lesbian/gay and children
families, bisexual families, etc. No matter how different the family is, the
common thing among all families is love, intimacy or close relationship between
family members and couples.
But I sometimes wonder whether love is eternal and unchangeable
thing, and I thought there is a clue to the answer in this Ted talk video.
I was totally surprise to know that the domestic
violence starts suddenly and even the victim of the violence can recognize it
as domestic violence, because they strongly believe, whether consciously or unconsciously,
that they love each other. They believe there is a love therefore the victims
don’t leave, even if the partner are about to kill them. Why can people believe
so tightly that love will stop the violence someday? Why do they stand until
they are hurt terribly or killed by the men who they loved?
At this point, I think
I found a different between men and women; masculinity and femininity. In general,
men try to show their power, strength, and authority during the relationship in
order to fulfill the sense of masculinity. They seem to care about physical
issues.
On the other hand, women show tenderness, feeling of love, and things which
relate to emotion. I guess the gap between their ways of thinking will lead
them end of their relationship.
But it is also true that there are thousands of
couples and families who get along with their partners and live happy lives. What
is the difference? Maybe, it is the difference of the partner itself. As the
speaker told in her speech, her partner has being abused in his childhood and
still had a strong sense of fear of the memory, and hence he attacked her. In this
case the important thing is how to choose your partner.
Love is blind, so to
speak, but it may be essential to step back, stay calm, observe your partner
and the relationship between you and him, and think deeply whether if it will
be for you.
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